Updated September 2026
In this guide
Start with what has changed
You do not need to arrive at an appointment with a diagnosis. Describe what you have noticed, when it started and what has become difficult. That might include your mood, worry, concentration, sleep, drinking, work or feeling connected to people. A professional can help assess what is happening.
Asking a friend for support
Write down the main change affecting you.
Speak about your own experience
It can be easier to describe your partner’s difficulties than your own. Try including a sentence about you: ‘I am struggling to get through the day’, or ‘I need help with how this is affecting me.’ If your concern is not understood, ask what follow-up or alternative service is available.
A small space in the day
A quiet activity may be something you enjoy. You do not have to feel positive to deserve support.
Choose a realistic first contact
Your own doctor or an appropriate mental-health professional can be a starting point. An emotional-support service can also offer someone to talk to. These have different roles: listening support is not a clinical assessment, and a directory listing is not a guaranteed appointment.
If waiting feels impossible
Check the urgent-help route if you are worried about immediate danger or need urgent support. Otherwise, ask the provider what to do while waiting and how to seek help if things change. This website does not monitor your situation.
One step you could take
- Write down the main change affecting you.
- Choose one contact from the support directory.
- Take an appointment sheet with you if it helps.
Sources
Research reviewed to 1 September 2026.