Updated September 2026
In this guide
Important distinctions
Anger is not the same thing as depression, and neither word tells us whether someone is behaving abusively. Research into postpartum anger does not establish the rate of abuse of fathers. Focus on the behaviour, its impact and what support is needed.
You do not have to settle the label
If you are experiencing threats, humiliation, coercion or violence, a specialist service can help you talk through what is happening. Male victims are included by the services identified in our directory. Check location, opening hours and contact modes rather than assuming every service is available now.
A next step that is yours
You can seek support for yourself. Use a safe way to contact someone, and follow the urgent-help guidance if danger is immediate.
If you are worried about your own behaviour
Take that concern seriously and seek appropriate professional help. Describe the behaviour plainly rather than asking an online tool to excuse or diagnose it. If someone is in immediate danger, use the emergency services for the country you are in.
Think about access and privacy
A shared or monitored device may expose browsing, searches or downloads. This website has no quick-exit feature that claims to erase that history. Use a safer means of accessing help if possible and ask a specialist service about your circumstances.
Making a call in a quiet place
Find a specialist service for your location.
One step you could take
- Use urgent help if someone is in immediate danger.
- Find a specialist service for your location.
- Avoid joint exercises if participating would feel unsafe.
Sources
Research reviewed to 1 September 2026.